With all of the weight loss books, blogs, and opinions out there, it can be so easy to lose sight of what it takes for YOU to lose weight. What works for one person may not work for you. What one person loves may not be what you love. And what motivates one person may not be what motivates you.
This year I have really been struggling to find my voice in my own weight loss journey. My brain has become clouded with others’ opinions about how I should lose weight. It has been overwhelming and emotional to say the least.
Early this year I was made fun of by a reader for not being successful in my weight loss. Based on this post, the person stated “You fail b/c you never give any of your programs a chance to succeed. You can’t find the right diet, because you stick to none of them and talk all the time about how you cheat. You gain weight, because you eat too much and too often”. Being made fun of and cut down for what I have struggled with my entire life has honestly ruined my confidence in my ability to reach my goals since reading these words. Though I shouldn’t allow a person’s words to affect me in this way, the words of this person were by far the most hateful and hurtful I have ever heard in my entire life.
You see, I blog because I want to share what I go through daily. I blog because I know that there are men and women who face the exact same struggles as me. I blog because I appreciate the support system, on my best of days and my worst of days. And I blog because I hope that I can in some way help someone with my words. Never did I think that someone would write such cruel things, let alone someone I know personally.
I know that for this person, losing weight is easy. I understand that to them, my struggle is just full of excuses and the inability to follow examples such as their own. The reality is, my weight is a daily struggle for me! Sadly, the words of this person have left a huge scar. How do you get such cruel words out of your head and heart and learn to move on? I am still not there, but I have at least had a few months to think things through and to evaluate my life, my weight loss, and my goals.
Over the past two weeks I have gone through hundreds of old photos, I have shared my long term goals, I have brainstormed about my fitness goals, and now I just need to get my diet in check! This summer I’ve realized and learned that I have to take my life back to the basics of weight loss– For ME!
For me, I have been the most successful in my weight loss with the following diet based on the Weight Watchers CORE program. I am not planning on joining Weight Watchers, but I think it’s important for me to think about why I’ve always been successful through their program. It’s not just the diet, it’s the community, the weekly weigh-ins, and the support system Weight Watchers provides.
The other key for me in being successful is portion control and asking myself while I am eating if I am still hungry. When I have lost large amounts of weight in the past, stopping myself halfway through a meal to see if I was hungry was key as it helped me learn to listen to my body and to determine my level of satisfaction.
The last key for me is to continue to enjoy my workouts and to push myself daily in those workouts. I love working out and just need to keep that fire alive!
The past 3 months have been very challenging since reading the words of that reader but I hope that I can move on from it and find a place of peace and focus once again. Sorting through all of my thoughts and working to refocus has been good and I hope that in time it leads to great success in working towards my goals.
Have you lost sight of what works for you? What will it take for you to get back to or stay at a place that is conducive for weight loss/management in your life?