Friday, the first full day of the Fitbloggin conference, started out with an early morning run with Lauren. In all honesty, I slept horrible that night (hard bed) and getting up for the run was really hard but Lauren was a great encouragement to me. It reminded me how important it is to have a partner and motivator in my life when I’m working to lose weight.
Our run was a quick one (1.5 miles) but it was a perfect way to start the day.
Afterwards we went to the Reebok Crossfit class, which I shared about on Friday. I felt awesome afterwards!! Confession, I’m starting to like burpees!
After a quick wardrobe change I headed on down to lunch and then to the first Fitbloggin session on self acceptance. Sidenote, I love my shirt! My favorite souvenir from our honeymoon, a Nike shirt from Prague.
The session on self acceptance was more than I could have ever asked for. The session began with 3 women (Karen, Mara, and Shauna) sharing their story and how they reached the point of self acceptance. From there, attendees were asked to share their stories, struggles with self acceptance, and/or how they found peace and self acceptance.
Here are some of the comments about self acceptance that made the biggest impact on me:
-It’s not something that turns on like a light bulb
-Don’t compare yourself to others.
-Don’t trade one obsession for another (for example trading obsessive eating for obsession dieting).
-It’s about progress not perfection!
-It’s about body acceptance and being able to say “I love myself enough to change”
-You need to be able to accept exactly who you are, no matter what you weigh.
-The weight we are carrying is shielding both the outside and the inside. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others who don’t know who I am or where I want to be.
-You have to be happy with yourself NOW or you won’t be happy with wherever you are trying to get, even if you get there.
-Question: Is it the fear of failure that is keeping me from losing the weight?
-We need to take care of ourselves and care for the body that we have. We have just one!
-Question: Do I not trust myself? Why don’t I trust that I can do this? — Am I There Yet
-All of us are the star runner of our team — 300 Pounds and Running
-I need to think of creating habits that will be habits I can pass along to my own children. It’s never too early to create those habits for our children.
-Take the victories where they are.
-I can love myself. I am stronger than I think I am — Weight Off My Shoulders
-This doesn’t have to be a struggle for the rest of our lives.
-Question: What would happen if you realize you’re more than your body?
-You need to accept where you’re at so that you can move forward
-You need to be able to say to yourself “You don’t have to see me everyday, I have to see me everyday” and use that to motivate you!
-Self acceptance isn’t the same as satisfaction with self. They are two very different things!
-You have to remember that you reaching your goals will help others reach their goals!
I also shared my story with the group and where I am at in regards to self acceptance. For me, I struggle with being able to accept myself when those around me aren’t accepting of who I am.
Growing up, kids in grade school were not accepting of who I was and teased me for being overweight. Although I did find my voice when I became a powerlifter and discus thrower in high school, I still cared too much about being accepted by others.
As an adult, I began finding myself when I lived up in Vermont back in 2006-2007 as all of the past variables were stripped from my life. It was a fresh start for me. It was the first time I had been away from the church I had grown up in (which was not a healthy church for me. It controlled my life as I never felt accepted or good enough for the people in the church).
After moving back to DC in 2007, I began attending the church again and quickly was sucked back into the control and focus on living to find acceptance from those around me. In 2009 I decided to leave the church which was a very tough decision for me. Leaving the church meant leaving a community I had been a part of for most of my life and being cut off by friends for the decisions I had made.
The past 3 years have been difficult for me as I’ve had to figure out how to define my own life, determine my goals, and refocus my future. Over the past 3 years I have gained 20 pounds, losing and regaining it over and over again. If you read back over my posts from the past year and half, my weight has ranged from 230 to 213.
Unlike my time at Dartmouth when I was focused on myself and my own life, the past few years have been a struggle as I’ve returned back to allowing others’ opinions and lack of acceptance to affect my ability to accept who I am. Sure, I should be able to say “I don’t care” but when Neal’s siblings call me a fat ass and make fun of my blog, it’s hard to remain focused my own goals and the progress I have made. The truth is, they do not know me. They don’t know my story and are just judging my body size compared to their own. Although the pain of being ousted by your new family is just about the worst thing I could have imagined, I can happily say that I’ve moved on and have found peace with being able to live my own life and not worry about pleasing/sucking up to them. They are either going to hate me or love me. Right now it’s hate and I can’t allow their inability to accept me to affect my ability to accept who I am.
Friday’s Fitbloggin session on self acceptance really opened my eyes to my fears. I am scared of the unknown! I am scared of what will it take to weigh less than 200 pounds. I am scared of whether or not I’ll be able to maintain my loss or if I’ll gain weight back as I have over the past 3 years.
The men and women sitting in that room helped me to see that I must focus on myself and my goals. It has to be about me. Loving myself, working out for myself, and eating the right things for myself. In doing so I will find self acceptance and will come to love myself… my whole self.
I am going to sharing my future goals later this week. I am so thankful for being able to find more clarity and to continue my journey to true and pure self acceptance.
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