So I am just going to rant a little today if that’s alright with y’all… When I was 15 years old I had it in my head that I’d be married right out of college and pregnant by the age of 23. Being from the south (San Antonio), that life plan was not uncommon.
I watched my friends get engaged and married, becoming wives as young as age 20. I couldn’t help but be jealous of the “perfect life” they were living. They were married, had children, and were no older than 25… and there I was 23 and very single.
Looking back, I am so incredibly thankful that I did not get married right out of college and thus did not have kids at the age of 23. Having those years to travel, to change jobs, to date around, and to get to know myself more was exactly what I wanted deep down inside and ultimately needed.
As I’ve shared before, I met Neal at a very fragile time in my life, and God love him for being supportive of me through that time. He was exactly what I needed at that time in my life and obviously is the partner I want beside me for the rest of my life. I honestly don’t think my 21 year old self would have known the type of man I needed 6 years later…
So now here we are, newlyweds, starting our new life together. As we approach our 1 year anniversary, I can’t help but think back on the past year and how great it has been. I’ve enjoyed every moment, every laugh, every argument, and every adventure. But the big question is…
From the moment Neal put a ring on it, people have been asking me when we’re going to start a family and the longer we wait the more people bug me about it. Some days, I get incredibly excited about having kids (you’ll know what day that is based on my Pinterest activity) and other days I want to wait. Though I can’t wait to have kids, I know that they will change our lives forever, so I want to make sure we’re REALLY ready.
Earlier this year through my blogger survey a number of y’all asked me when I was planning to have kids and/or when I’d be ready to have kids. The truth is, I don’t really know how to answer that question. What I do know is that I want to be at a healthy weight before having kids, I’d like to have a good amount of money saved before having kids, and I want to make sure Neal and I have enjoyed “just us” before having kids.
Obviously anything can happen, but as I’ve learned in life so far, it’s best to let life happen and not push things into a plan that may not be ideal in the long run.
So tell me…
When is the right time to have kids?
If you have kids, what are your thoughts looking back?
If you don’t have kids, do you have a “game plan”?
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